Spurgeon (or was it Geo. Mueller? – whichever) reportedly said “I will have no conversation with man before I’ve had a conversation of significance with God.”
Last night while preaching from Romans 15 (see below) I put it this way: open your Bible before you open your mouth.
“We who are strong have an obligation to bear with the failings of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. For Christ did not please himself, but as it is written, “The reproaches of those who reproached you fell on me.” For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope. May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
Romans 15:1-6 ESV