This Tim Keller post could be helpful… but don’t think you can just fix yourself with determination. I think the author assumes that readers of his blog will understand that. Once you have read this article the next thing will be to pray that God will meet you and help you by changing your heart. The fruit of the Spirit is not a measure of how nice you are, it is a measure of how much God is working in you. http://redeemercitytocity.com/blog/view.jsp?Blog_param=461